20 10 / 2014

cindersinrags:

lauriolpla:

ctron164:

baronessvondengler:

ctron164:

baronessvondengler:

ctron164:

baronessvondengler:

Scandal Episodes 404 and 214: Compare and Contrast

Don’t push me ‘cause I’m close to the edge…

What sucks about this is people will twist this into Fitz being abusive and totally overlook his personal space being invaded. 

I certainly don’t think Fitz is abusive, but it is certainly interesting that he doesn’t like his personal space being invaded, yet he was literally all up in Olivia’s nose just moments ago in the Oval Office.

The gender politics on this show are insane that way aren’t they ? It’s all good if it leads to sexual tension or trysts.  A man in Shondaland can be all up on a woman but if she were to do the same then there’s an issue.  

Is it even the show at this point or just the way the world is?

I think it’s both, it’s how Shonda sees the world. In all of her shows the women aren’t held accountable for screwing people over and when they are it’s usually via slut shaming or their parents shaming them. The men are always apologetic or used to slut shame the women. It’s in all of her shows.

I don’t see the problem as Fitz’s problem, but more as Olivia’s problem (that Shonda gave her).  We know that Fitz doesn’t like his personal space invaded because they have him react negatively to it.  We also know that Olivia doesn’t mind having her personal space invaded because she lets everyone invade it, from Fitz to Joke, to Papa Pope, to Huck, to Mellie.  Sure, Fitz’s behavior looks bad when taken out of context, but in context it isn’t as bad because either he apologizes (and he’s the only one who does) or Olivia holds him accountable for it, even when it leads to a tryst.  Also, I’m sorry, but with an alpha male and an alpha woman who are drawn together like these two are whenever they are in a room together, with the sexual tension always high, and Olivia always on the run, well, men love to chase and Olivia always makes him chase her, and I expect him to chase her, and I am not going to apologize or turn in my well-earned feminist card for finding it sexy. Not only that, but that should be seen in context as well.  Without their history he would not behave like that toward her.  He didn’t act like that when they first met.  He knows that she doesn’t mind him pulling her in.  He knows that she responds to him positively when he does it.  The problem is not with Fitz.  The problem is that either intentionally or unintentionally, Olivia has been made mute in the face of all invasions of her personal space, whether big or small. 

I think the above is hugely problematic, because all I’m reading is excuses. Excuses that we would not dream of affording to any other character. Excuses that we would never dream of providing for Jake if he’d done the same thing.

I don’t see the problem as Fitz’s problem, but more as Olivia’s problem”

This sentence right here, is what we would call victim blaming if Jake had been the one to grab her wrists and make her wince. 

It’s like people forgot that Fitz was the one who first invaded Olivia’s space, and she succumbed, but when she told him the truth about Jake, he got angry, and when she went to touch him, he grabbed her wrists in anger, and by the look on Olivia’s face, he was hurting her. But by all means, let’s talk about this being Olivia’s problem, and pretending that it’s ok that Fitz grabbed her because Olivia is the problem.

I think it’s only victim blaming when you take it out of context, as you did.  You had to separate one sentence from the rest of my post in order to make it victim blaming.  Olivia is not Fitz’s victim, so to hold her responsible for how she has taught him to treat her is not victim blaming.  The point of that comment was that Olivia is a grown female character and has a history and a pattern of behavior in which  Olivia has failed to teach ANYONE that they can’t invade her personal space, nor has she tried.  On the other hand, Fitz has tried to teach people that they can’t invade his personal space.  I was contrasting the characters as part of my observation that Olivia has been written to be mute.  

Also, I did not refer to the wrist grabbing in my comment.  I did not defend it.  I don’t care to comment on it specifically because I saw it merely as evidence of the big picture that Fitz is not mute when his personal space is invaded, as opposed to Olivia, who is mute.  I actually forgot about the photo-set that was attached.  Invasion of personal space was mentioned in an earlier comment in the thread and the other comments following it also referred to it.  I was continuing that part of the conversation and saying that I don’t think the presentation of Fitz saying no to invasions of his personal space is some big feminist issue because the real feminist issue is not how Fitz is portrayed, but that Olivia is mute when her own personal space is invaded.  Indication of my intent was my inclusion of Papa Pope in my list of people who were guilty of invading Olivia’s personal space.  I don’t think Papa Pope has ever been physical with Olivia, has he?

Also, I was being sarcastic when I said “We also KNOW that Olivia doesn’t mind having her personal space invaded” - that was, again, me showing my disdain for the writers and how Olivia is written.

So, I stand by everything I said in my post.  If anyone wants to take it out of context and say that I am excusing behavior that I didn’t refer to, well, I can’t control that.

19 10 / 2014

19 10 / 2014

stiilettos:

Misty Upham.
Remember her name and face.
Too many Native women don’t get their stories shared. Too many Native women are forgotten. 
Remember her. Remember them.
Rest in peace, Misty.
July 6, 1982 — October 16, 2014 

stiilettos:

Misty Upham.

Remember her name and face.

Too many Native women don’t get their stories shared. Too many Native women are forgotten. 

Remember her. Remember them.

Rest in peace, Misty.

July 6, 1982 — October 16, 2014 

(via engineerinalabcoat)

19 10 / 2014

tamorapierce:

profeminist:

Finally, Nigeria’s Kidnapped Schoolgirls Are Coming Home
Photo: Some of the schoolgirls Boko Haram kidnapped in mid-April. 
"On Friday, Nigeria’s government announced it had reached a deal with Boko Haram to release the approximately 200 schoolgirls held captive by the Islamist terror group since April.
The agreement, announced by the country’s defense minister, also involves a cease fire between Boko Haram and Nigeria’s military. The government expects the terror group will not back out on the deal. “Commitment among parts of Boko Haram and the military does appear to be genuine,” an official with Nigeria’s security forces told Reuters Friday. “It is worth taking seriously.”
Boko Haram militants abducted more than 300 schoolgirls from Chibok boarding school in northern Nigeria in mid-April, sparking a worldwide outcry and propelling the group onto to the international stage for the first time. Over fifty of the girls escaped early on. The rest have remained in captivity ever since.”
As reported by Mother Jones 
AWESOME NEWS - this has been such a nightmare to follow, it is so great to hear the girls are being released!

Finally.

tamorapierce:

profeminist:

Finally, Nigeria’s Kidnapped Schoolgirls Are Coming Home

Photo: Some of the schoolgirls Boko Haram kidnapped in mid-April. 

"On Friday, Nigeria’s government announced it had reached a deal with Boko Haram to release the approximately 200 schoolgirls held captive by the Islamist terror group since April.

The agreement, announced by the country’s defense minister, also involves a cease fire between Boko Haram and Nigeria’s military. The government expects the terror group will not back out on the deal. “Commitment among parts of Boko Haram and the military does appear to be genuine,” an official with Nigeria’s security forces told Reuters Friday. “It is worth taking seriously.”

Boko Haram militants abducted more than 300 schoolgirls from Chibok boarding school in northern Nigeria in mid-April, sparking a worldwide outcry and propelling the group onto to the international stage for the first time. Over fifty of the girls escaped early on. The rest have remained in captivity ever since.”

As reported by Mother Jones 

AWESOME NEWS - this has been such a nightmare to follow, it is so great to hear the girls are being released!

Finally.

(via engineerinalabcoat)

19 10 / 2014

fatallywhimsical:

benedictbooty:

Remember Wendy Davis?

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You know, the badass democrat who fillibustered for 11 hours straight to conserve women’s rights in Texas?

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Well, this wonderful and amazing woman has announced her campaign for Texas governor!

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Let’s show her some goddamn support!

(via ctron164)

19 10 / 2014

soulmatesinanimpala:

Photo shoot I did of Osric’s Tuxedo Mask cosplay 10.10.2014 :)

Photography by Aileen Estrada (me)

Costume by Mia Belle

(via greendayangel)

19 10 / 2014

soulmatesinanimpala:

Photo shoot I did of Osric’s Sailor Jupiter cosplay 10.10.2014 :)

Photography by Aileen Estrada (me)

Costume by Mia Belle

Tuxedo Mask set

(via greendayangel)

19 10 / 2014

ctron164:

charlottelabouff:

vua2:

I’ll never understand people who don’t drink alcohol

Maybe they know what alcohol can do to people, maybe they fear liver failure, maybe they had a family member or friend that died from an alcohol related accident, maybe they don’t feel the need or desire to drink, it’s really not that hard to comprehend.

Drinking isn’t everything either, look at how alcohol is used to excuse all sorts of abhorrent behavior like cheating and even rape.

Also, some people don’t like the taste or having their drinks spiked because some waiter thinks it’s funny.

(Source: vua)

19 10 / 2014

fullmetalpuppy:

Some girls are confident

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some girls are shy

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some girls like boys

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some girls like girls

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sometimes, they like both

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some girls don’t dress in a feminine way

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and some do

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and some girls weren’t born girls, and that’s fine

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some girls cover up

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and some girls don’t

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some girls are bigger

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some girls are smaller 

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some girls are smart

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and some girls aren’t

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some girls are nice

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and some girls are mean

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but no matter what,

all girls are people
and we should be treated like it.

(Source: f--m--p, via engineerinalabcoat)

19 10 / 2014

ctron164:

baronessvondengler:

ctron164:

baronessvondengler:

ctron164:

baronessvondengler:

Scandal Episodes 404 and 214: Compare and Contrast

Don’t push me ‘cause I’m close to the edge…

What sucks about this is people will twist this into Fitz being abusive and totally overlook his personal space being invaded. 

I certainly don’t think Fitz is abusive, but it is certainly interesting that he doesn’t like his personal space being invaded, yet he was literally all up in Olivia’s nose just moments ago in the Oval Office.

The gender politics on this show are insane that way aren’t they ? It’s all good if it leads to sexual tension or trysts.  A man in Shondaland can be all up on a woman but if she were to do the same then there’s an issue.  

Is it even the show at this point or just the way the world is?

I think it’s both, it’s how Shonda sees the world. In all of her shows the women aren’t held accountable for screwing people over and when they are it’s usually via slut shaming or their parents shaming them. The men are always apologetic or used to slut shame the women. It’s in all of her shows.

I don’t see the problem as Fitz’s problem, but more as Olivia’s problem (that Shonda gave her).  We know that Fitz doesn’t like his personal space invaded because they have him react negatively to it.  We also know that Olivia doesn’t mind having her personal space invaded because she lets everyone invade it, from Fitz to Joke, to Papa Pope, to Huck, to Mellie.  Sure, Fitz’s behavior looks bad when taken out of context, but in context it isn’t as bad because either he apologizes (and he’s the only one who does) or Olivia holds him accountable for it, even when it leads to a tryst.  Also, I’m sorry, but with an alpha male and an alpha woman who are drawn together like these two are whenever they are in a room together, with the sexual tension always high, and Olivia always on the run, well, men love to chase and Olivia always makes him chase her, and I expect him to chase her, and I am not going to apologize or turn in my well-earned feminist card for finding it sexy. Not only that, but that should be seen in context as well.  Without their history he would not behave like that toward her.  He didn’t act like that when they first met.  He knows that she doesn’t mind him pulling her in.  He knows that she responds to him positively when he does it.  The problem is not with Fitz.  The problem is that either intentionally or unintentionally, Olivia has been made mute in the face of all invasions of her personal space, whether big or small.